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Younger men chasing older women, or “cougars,” is more common than we often realize. In many instances, you’ve seen it happen from political personalities such as French Prime Minister Macron and his former teacher and current wife, Brigitte, to Hollywood celebrities like Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore. 

 While there is still stigma enveloping these “unique” types of relationships, there’s no denying that the allure of a much older woman drives a few young guys crazy. Some younger men reason that the attention they get from older women boosts their confidence and self-esteem.

If you’re a guy belonging to this demographic, you’re in luck! Here are some tried and tested tips to help you catch the cougar of your dreams!

Spruce up your style

The adage “first impressions last” still applies in this day and age. If you’re on the lookout for a lady friend to go out on a date, look sharp and dashing—yet leave something to their imagination! MILF users online are drawn to guys who exude confidence and are self-assured. Portray that image by looking the part! Take a good photo that highlights your best assets.

A Catchy Username Catches Her Attention. 

If you’re on the prowl to find yourself the worthy cougar, make sure she has her eyes just on you! Apart from a handsome photo of yourself on your profile, use a good username that will make her do a double-take when flipping through profiles online.

Pen a Proper Profile 

A lot of cougar dating sites allow users to write a brief summary or headline about their profile. And more often than not, it makes or breaks whether you’re deemed dateable by these MILFs. Remember this acronym KISS (keep it short and simple).

A good profile must be positive, attractive, and with a hint of mystery. It must pique her interest and get her to finally message and get to know more about you. 

Level your expectations, broaden your perspective

Approaching women of a certain age differs from, say, chatting with a babe who’s around the same age as you are. You may need to change your game plan to fit their personality. 

 When pursuing a cougar, confidence will remain to be your biggest weapon. Since older women have more experience in life than you do, there’s nothing that would excite them more, and cliches won’t just do. They’re not in it for the drama or mind games. What they’re looking for is a gentleman in the streets and a freak on the sheets.

It will not always be about SEX

One reason some younger guys prefer older ladies is for their libido. Studies have shown that sexual satisfaction in older women increases with age. However, that is not necessarily the case all the time. Cougar dating apps and websites attract women who search for a broad spectrum of relationships—from casual sex to a serious relationship. 

 If sex is what you’re mainly after, be honest about it so that you don’t lead them on, especially if that’s not what they had in mind entirely, to begin with. The clarity in your intention and clear communication are crucial to making things work for you and your potential lover or playmate.

Authenticity is sexy

While it’s in your best intentions to put your best foot forward, going overboard and exaggerating your background may not always be a good idea. Just be true to yourself and be honest about who you are while still focusing on the best traits you can offer at the table.

Age talk is off-limits

The age difference is already established, so there’s no point referencing this in conversations—or even worse—jokes. But always be mindful that with the age gap given, some differences might arise. Therefore, you must pay attention to her likes, pet peeves and show maturity in your general actions.